I have given this talk before. It is a question I care about. How do I not live small? How do I have to courage to show up authentically AND open-hearted? So much of the dialogue about power is about power-over. CORE power (centered, real, authentic) frees me from power-over.
Resources I found helpful include:
Learned Optimism, Martin Seligman
Let Your Life Speak, Parker Palmer
Mindsets, Carol Dweck
I Thought It Was Just Me, Brene Brown
Peak Performance, collection of Harvard Business Review articles
www.consciousembodiment.com, Wendy Palmer
www.mindsetsonline.com, the work of Carol Dweck
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Sunday, December 5, 2010
Sunday, January 24, 2010
Giving my power away
"The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any."
Alice Walker
Where do you have power?
After years of learning about power, at times I still give it away.
One way is I allow others to decide if I am enough, OK, smart, or worthy... It is a very old habit, one that I could dwell in comfortably uncomfortable for the rest of my days. I feel fortunate to have found some paths out of it. I am motivated. When I see my lovely friends, colleagues and clients admit this same syndrome it makes me sad. Such a waste... can't they see they are OK, worthy, and more than enough? Can't I?
The other way I give it away is when I focus on how others should change and don't examine my part in the dance. It is gratifying to blame others for my condition (see www.powerandsystems.com for some great materials on this) and empty. I have focused on how my husband could change and grow for years (sorry honey) and only in the past years truly explored what was going on as our shared dance. Change my dance steps and it is possible for the dance to change.
Alice Walker
Where do you have power?
After years of learning about power, at times I still give it away.
One way is I allow others to decide if I am enough, OK, smart, or worthy... It is a very old habit, one that I could dwell in comfortably uncomfortable for the rest of my days. I feel fortunate to have found some paths out of it. I am motivated. When I see my lovely friends, colleagues and clients admit this same syndrome it makes me sad. Such a waste... can't they see they are OK, worthy, and more than enough? Can't I?
The other way I give it away is when I focus on how others should change and don't examine my part in the dance. It is gratifying to blame others for my condition (see www.powerandsystems.com for some great materials on this) and empty. I have focused on how my husband could change and grow for years (sorry honey) and only in the past years truly explored what was going on as our shared dance. Change my dance steps and it is possible for the dance to change.
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